Finally be the therapist that helps clients who have a parent with Borderline Personality Disorder*
*This group and training are applicable for all adult children of parents of BPD, NPD, cluster B personality disorders, complex developmental wounding/trauma, Dissociative Disorders (DDNOS), “emotionally immature parents,” and for anyone who grew up in an invalidating environment.
CE credits available for each phase of training
Next training begins March 22, 2024.
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That workshop was by far the most FELT, transformative workshop I have taken at Grateful Heart yet. I am walking away with practical tools, exercises, and so much excitement to put these to use this next week with clients. Thank you.
I really resonated with so much of the workshop. The somatic exercises brought me to tears, so much emotion is moving through me… I am so inspired by your work. My deepest of gratitude to you and the work that you do. It feels really good to have these emotions flowing through me. I feel a release. Time to go out in nature!
~Abi R
Most therapists are at a loss when they sense patterns of Borderline Personality Disorder (or similar developmental wounding) in their client’s history or current character structure because they don’t know how to successfully work with them.
You can go from being scared of accepting clients with this wounding to confident that you have the key to unlocking lasting change for them.
Learn why you’re getting caught in a system with these clients.
More importantly: learn how to help them reverse patterns of intergenerational trauma without getting caught in reenactments that lead to your burn out, frustration, and even resentment.
Every therapist who works with clients who were raised by a parent with BPD (or similar emotional deficits) knows that these types of clients:
It’s so clear that these types of clients need help.
But in sessions with these clients, it can feel impossible to know how to break through.
Here’s why:
Adult children of parents with Borderline Personality Disorder find it existentially threatening to thrive. Early on, they made unspoken contracts with their parent with BPD. Unbeknownst to them, their loyalty to their parent’s dysfunctional patterns became calcified and even now limits how the adult child moves through the world. Repeatedly they have learned: —to not take up space, submitting their needs in favor of protecting the attachment —to not have boundaries. —that disappointing someone is the worst thing in the world. —that getting it right is like an invisible moving target that’s impossible to hit. —to live in a world of shame, blame, and assuming responsibility for things that aren’t their fault. Life’s a constant state of effort to please and a pervasive sense of being wrong.
These types of clients have tried many ways to heal, without much lasting success:
Patterns of Borderline Personality Disorder (or similar developmental wounding) in your clients’ family of origin can create interpersonal strain and can negatively impact the therapeutic relationship.
As a therapist, you want to be the one who can finally help your clients thrive.
But sessions with these types of clients haven't led to the results you want for your clients — and may have left you feeling drained.
You might find that these are your most meaningful and challenging client relationships, because their material touches on your own challenges; their stuckness mirrors your own. Hence, you’re particularly prone to getting caught in enactments with them.
Imagine:
Hi, I’m Pamela Rosin, Marriage and Family Therapist.
It’s no surprise that I became a therapist. I’ve always been a personal growth junkie. I’ve been in therapy most of my life. Maybe it’s because I was wallowing or stuck or seeking maternal love in the form of a therapist. Go figure! Everything changed 15 years ago when a bodyworker handed me the book Understanding the Borderline Mother. I was shocked as I read it. How did Christine Ann Lawson, the author, manage to hide in my childhood home and capture it so accurately? Equipped with the term Borderline Personality Disorder, everything made sense. Maybe I wasn’t crazy. Right away, I started a peer group and it was revolutionary. All those years in therapy, I hadn’t realized, there’s only so much you can get from a therapist offering empathy without divulging their own experience. In a group you can share stories and it’s different. I remember someone saying to the group, “What are you doing in my head? I thought I was the only one having these thoughts!” The group inspired me to become a therapist who could support this population. No one was offering groups for adult children of parents with BPD or similar emotional deficits.
So I had to create it.
I drew on a multitude of modalities and life experiences to create Growing Ourselves Whole — a group therapy experience for adult children of parents with BPD. I like to say, this group is my baby. I genuinely mean it. I’ve dedicated myself to healing this wounding in the world. I’m committed to reversing the intergenerational trauma of BPD (or similar developmental wounding) in as many people as possible.
I’ve created a gem; it’s nothing short of magic. Each time I offer the group, I’m astounded by the synergy of the people who come together. As group leader, I create a field of safety and love where people step forward with deep truths and take in each other’s care. I get to stand back and bask in the power of a proven curriculum, having offered it nine times. The structure is conducive to deep sharing, ah-ha moments, laughter, tears, growth. Members experience an end to their lifelong sense of isolation. Every week as I close the Zoom meeting, I exclaim “#*@$! YES!”
As I see all the unraveling that’s happening in the world, I know there’s no time to waste. People need this. They’ve needed it their whole lives. It doesn’t just impact them, but everyone and everything around them.
According to Carl Buchheit, PhD, the Founder of NLP Marin:
“BPD sits behind and beneath about 80% of the pain in people’s lives. This is not a psychological observation. I am sure most psychologists would think this percentage is absurdly high. In my experience, it is accurate. Everyone deals with the effects of BPD patterning, either in themselves or in the behavior of the people they work with or relate with—or do anything with. There is no hyperbole in these sentences, alas.”
Experts on BPD and DBT who have contributed to the development of this program:
About your trainer
64 Successful Participants
164+ Instructional Hours
1,300+ Clinical Participation Hours
6+ Years of Targeted Therapeutic Support
Qualifications
Pamela Rosin, MFT (she/her) helps clients move toward a sense of belonging, grounding, freedom, and comfort in their own skin. As a Certified Hakomi Therapist, Pamela utilizes experientially based modalities and a synergy of Buddhist and Somatic psychologies to cultivate healing. As a therapist, Pamela integrates her professional acting background, a decade as a bodyworker, and many years of teaching Shakespeare in prison.
As a teacher and group leader, Pamela draws from a multitude of experience in various educational and therapeutic arenas. She embodies the precepts of Reparentive Therapy; bringing relational, loving presence to support learning. Pamela’s creativity, ability to personalize the material, and emphasis on nervous system regulation, supports students’ access and integration of this sensitive and challenging topic.
Outstanding in her field
A graduate of the Integral Counseling Psychology program at the California Institute of Integral Studies, Pamela’s therapeutic orientation has been influenced by the Eastern/Western blend provided at CIIS, traditional Freudian, psychodynamic, and transpersonal approaches, and by the many wise mentors and guides with whom she has traveled.
Pamela is a seasoned guide, dedicated to healing this wounding in herself and others. She has led Growing Ourselves Whole numerous times over the past few years.
"Pamela Rosin, MFT is a gifted therapist and teacher. Her humility, intelligence and humor make learning about these challenging topics approachable. She is kind, sensitive, and generous and holds a solid, heartfelt container for her clients and students. The group therapy model that she has developed to help adult children of personality disordered parents is groundbreaking and essential. Finally, an approach exists that includes a refined comprehension of the developmental wounding resulting from BPD parenting, coupled with a connected group model that truly supports relational healing. Her ability to synthesize material and approaches into a cohesive, effective approach and group healing model is finally here and each and every one of us as therapists and recovering souls, can benefit from what it has to offer."
Justine Melisande Polevoy
MFT #36954
"I have had several patients complete the group for people who are related to or connected intimately to someone with BPD or narcissism. One patient said to me, "I've already gotten my entire money's worth after just session-one of the group." They felt so validated and their long sense of being isolated and totally alone with their experiences shifted dramatically. I have seen my patients gain a totally new sense of perspective on their suffering, specifically that they are able to identify their internalized self-hatred and cruel inner voice as something that originates in their chaotic and traumatic childhood experiences rather than being signs of their true badness. I've seen my patients able to separate themselves more from these toxic inner dialogues and discover and increased ability to self-soothe, self-love and an increase in self-compassion. This is truly a pivotal experience for people who carry great suffering and damage from childhood. Anyone wanting to work with people who suffered from emotionally immature or abusive family's will gain tremendous experience in how to reach these patients and truly transform their healing process."
Ben Elitzur
MD Board Certified Psychiatrist
With the focus on the therapist’s nervous system as a resource, the healing begins with you, in a lasting way.
You can bask in the exponential healing in your clients.
TRAIN IN REPARENTIVE THERAPY & DEVELOP VALUABLE TOOLS FOR YOUR PRACTICE
“There's more space in me for love because the shame is getting smaller.”
“I wanted for a long time to connect with other people who came from monstrous backgrounds, but who weren’t becoming monsters too. This group helped me find a peace my ancestors couldn’t envision.”
“I see past the trauma to the person I am.”
Get a Certificate in ReParentive™ Therapy (Phase 1) &
Learn to Lead Growing Ourselves Whole Groups (Phase 2)
What is ReParentive™ Therapy?
ReParentive™: the term is a hybrid of two therapeutic concepts: reparative (adj) and reparent (v) and includes the concept of reparations. This approach has roots in therapeutic modalities that prioritize embodiment, mindfulness, liberation, and social justice; it is non-hierarchical and non-pathologizing.
ReParentive Therapy is an active process of making up for past wrongs. It provides the opportunity for the client to receive what they never got, without disempowering them, infantilizing, or creating problematic attachment or reenactment. The therapist acts as a repairing parent (thus the term), who can make reparations to the client’s child self and encourages the adult child to take in the available, safe nourishment so that they can begin to shift their internal sense of what is possible, and let the new options impact their sense of self.
Reparentive Therapy is an intergenerational trauma healing model that encompasses three main elements: 1) an emphasis on the therapeutic relationship, 2) an emphasis on providing the group member/client with a missing experience, and 3) the use of the therapist’s own stable, regulated nervous system as an interactive, dyadic regulator of the group member/client’s nervous system, which supports the experience of secure attachment.
Reparentive Therapy requires the therapist to embody the characteristics and qualities that provide the adult child of a parent with Borderline Personality Disorder or with longstanding attachment issues, (emotional dysregulation, distress tolerance), with a missing, reparative, relational experience. In this model the therapist learns how to be a predictable and reliable source of support and to effectively, consistently, and non-defensively show up for relational interactions and provide repair.
The qualities that are cultivated in the therapist / group leader include transparency, humility, and authenticity. The therapist needs to provide both empathic relational connection and clear, consistent boundaries, while simultaneously supporting the clients’ experience of autonomy and choice. The therapist, unlike the parent with BPD, celebrates the clients’ success and reinforces their sense of agency and individuation. An emphasis is placed on accepting imperfection with grace and compassion and highlighting the reality that human beings are messy and mistakes are a natural part of being human, especially in relationship!
What’s Included in the Training?
Phase 1:
Immerse yourself in ReParentive Therapy. Learn instantly applicable skills that you can bring to your therapy practice, to care for your own nervous system, reduce burn out, and increase your awareness of countertransference. Deepen into your seat as therapist, and as a result, offer co-regulation to your clients.
ReParentive Therapy Professional Certificate Program
Live Virtual Training
Starts March 22, 2024
10 Fridays 12pm-2:30pm PST
Phase 1 (3 months/28 hours worth of
training includes 1 group three-hour case consultation sesison with Pamela)
Learn ReParentive Therapy skills and presence. Receive a certificate of completion at the end of the three months.
Yes, there are 16 CE’s available for Phase 1. There’s a processing fee of $75
Payment info: $1595
Early Bird Registration by January 15: $1450
With BIPOC discount: $1450
Not yet licensed as a therapist? Welcome! Launch your practice with a solid foundation, a niche, and the support of a cohort and mentor.
Training to Become a Therapy Group Leader
Phase 2 (3 Months/39 hours of training)
You will be a participant in the ten-week Growing Ourselves Whole group so that you learn by experiencing it. After each group session, you’ll have a chance to reflect on ReParentive Therapy techniques that you experienced in that session. (30 hours)
Your training also includes 6 didactic modules of 90 minutes each. (9 hours)
Through a mix of somatic psychotherapy techniques,
psychoeducation, trauma healing approaches, expressive art and experiential exercises, group processes, etc, you’ll learn how to become an effective therapist for this population.
The course meets weekly for 3-hour sessions for 13 weeks.
Schedule details TBA
CE credits will be available
Payment info: $2050
With BIPOC discount: $1800
3 hour Intensive:
Learn to promote your group, how to do an intake, how to determine right fit participants
Phase 3 (24 hours worth of consultation)
Weekly consultation as you promote, screen clients, and offer your Growing Ourselves Whole group for adult children of parents with BPD (or similar developmental trauma), either in person or online.
Promotional materials and support: you’ll get marketing support in real time as you launch your own group. You can use the Growing Ourselves Whole logo and promotional language.
Most importantly, and rather unique for a training: the cohort experience and group consultation with Pamela leading up to, during, and after your group.
Guides & handouts
What You’ll Learn
You’ll be learning reparentive therapy skills and have a therapeutic lens that you can apply immediately in your private practice with clients long before you launch your first group.
Growing Ourselves Whole is a structured, 10-week group therapy experience for adults with a parent with BPD. You’ll learn how to facilitate groups of 8 as you guide them to finally have breakthroughs around their core wounding.
All the hard work has been done for you
Phase 2 of the training offers all that you need to promote your group plus time tested techniques that get results. Not only that, you’ll be supported to offer your first group and make back your investment while you’re still in training.
Why Group is the Most Effective Therapy for Adult Children of Parents with BPD
Group is the ideal modality for this population, on account of the field of love that gets created, the contagion of ah-ha moments as clients share their insights, the mutual cheerleading that happens, and the overall end to the isolation and invalidation of a childhood riddled with blame and shame. Group becomes a reparative experience of family, as clients feel a sense of love, safety and belonging, perhaps for the first time ever.
Leading groups allows you to help many people at once. You can work more strategically, for fewer hours and serve more people, while making more money hourly.
More words from past group participants:
“It's been like medicine.”
“Pamela has a deep knowledge of the ways in which the brain is wired from BPD trauma. She knew how to explain the "why" without putting too much emphasis on how damaged we all felt. Her timing made me feel held, and heard, and that I would be ok.”
“As a professional working in a leadership capacity for high-risk, high-trauma fields (law enforcement), Pamela’s workshops have become a critical part of maintaining a caring presence in my work & a sense of personal safety. Growing up with a borderline parent, I was never taught boundaries, self-worth, self-love or self-care. I developed a mindset of victim blaming, as well as a learned ability to self-blame and self-minimize. Doing the work of healing from the trauma of a borderline parent is easily one of the most difficult things I’ve taken on in my life, because it felt like a betrayal. I began my journey in this therapy group, which showed me that I was not alone, and that loving myself & my parent does not have to be a zero-sum game. For me, Growing Ourselves Whole was my first inkling of a community that truly understands my experience as the child of borderline parent.”
Next Virtual Live Training
2023 Meeting Schedule
Phase 1
ReParentive Therapy Professional Certificate Program
(20 hours worth of training plus 2 individual consultations-to be scheduled with Pamela)
10 Didactic & Experiential Sessions
virtual live meetings
Fridays Begins on March 1, 2024
Training to Become a Therapy Group Leader
Phases 2 & 3
Dates TBD
ReParentive Therapy Professional Certificate Program
Phase 1
Live Class Dates and Times:
10 virtual live meetings
Fridays March 22, 29, April 5, 12, 19, 26, May 3, 10, 17, 24
12pm-2:30pm PST
Plus one three-hour group case consultation with Pamela
(Phases 2 & 3 – details coming soon)
Your Investment:
ReParentive Therapy Professional Certificate Program
Phase 1
$1595
With BIPOC discount: $1450
Early Bird Rate: when you enroll and pay in full by January 15: $1450 or $1395 with BIPOC Scholarship
Frequently Asked Questions
Yes, there are 16 CE’s available for Phase 1. There’s a processing fee of $75
Yes, absolutely! This training can start your practice off with a solid foundation and clear direction for your niche as you launch as a therapist. If you’re a somatic coach or do similar work with trauma, feel free to apply as well.
Full tuition cancellations made within 60 days or more in advance of the September 8 training start date will receive a 100% refund, less a $500 non-refundable deposit. Cancellations made 45 days in advance of the September 8 training start date will receive a 50% refund, less a $500 non-refundable deposit. Cancellations made within less than 45 days, will not receive a refund.
Phase 1 is comprised of 10 two-hour sessions plus two 30 minute individual consultations with Pamela, to support you along the way.
Phase 2 is comprised of 13 three-hour sessions, which include participation in and debrief of the 10-week therapy group. Experience the group as you learn to lead it, including learning skills and ReParentive Theory.
3-hour strategy session for promoting and screening for your group.
Phase 3: Consultation and support while you lead your group.
Video replays will be available for a limited time. It will be important that you watch the prior session’s video before the subsequent training.
Yes, the BIPOC Scholarship is $155 off Phase 1 and $255 off Phase 2
Yes, the phases are sequential. The skills you learn in Phase 1 will serve you as you lead groups.
FAQ about Phases 2 & 3
Absolutely! In fact, Phase 2, the integration and launching phase, is the most important part of the training. Your weekly consultation group will meet before and during your 10-week group.
You’ll leave the training equipped with all of the promotional materials that are designed with language that helps you reach your ideal clients for your group. You can get support around where best to promote your group to find people locally as well.
I’ve found 8 is the ideal number for groups. If you have fewer than 6 participants, I will encourage you to delay the start of your group.
I will support you with marketing ideas and will recommend that you hold off until you have a minimum of 6 participants.
Depending on local going rates for group therapy, you can generally charge in the range of $50-90/session. Your fee for the 10 week group can be $500-900, with room for a few sliding scale clients. With 8 participants, you can expect to gross anywhere from $4,000-7,000. If you offer the group three times per year, this amounts to as much as $21,000 increased annual income for you. The training pays for itself not after you finish, but during the training itself, while you offer your first group.
From the first module, you’ll be learning Reparentive Therapy skills that will benefit you in your seat as therapist with all of your clients. Your nervous system may even feel more resourced at the end of your work day.
Yes, if you’re shy and feeling called to this work, it is a great opportunity to breathe into your hesitation as you get support and a lot of structure every step of the way. I’ll hold your hand through all phases: during the training, as you promote your group, and then as you hold your group. You will not be alone as you do any of this.
Transform your practice. Change lives. Help end intergenerational trauma.
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